Tag: Au pair

The good, the bad and the things in between

Hello darlings!

First of all, I’m sorry it’s been so long since my last post! As many of you might have seen on my instagram, I’ve been on holiday in the lovely South of France for the last 2 weeks, with such a bad connection, it was impossible for me to post a new post. Forgive me xx
But now I’m back in my old bedroom. The house I’ve lived in for 19 years, where I know every single inch and sound. My family still lives here, with their same jobs and school, and it’s like nothing has changed at all. Except for me.
Everything looks the same, but it doesn’t feel the same. As I’ve written in many of my posts, this year abroad has made me very different. I’ve grown a lot, and I came back as a different person. I guess that’s why it’s so weird and abnormal to be back again, because it’s as if nothing has changed. When really, everything has changed.

Leaving Paris was so hard. Saying goodbye to my host family (especially the kids!), saying goodbye to my friends and Paris. Coming home to the quiet life I lived before can be very difficult. However, I’m so grateful I’ll start my new adventure soon, when I’ll be going to Scotland for university. I think it’s very important to have something to look forward to, or a goal you’d like to receive , when you have lived such a different lifestyle for so long. I have many friends who have also had a year off this year, traveling and leaving their comfort zone – all of them have had a difficult time readjusting to their lives in Denmark. And what we all agree on, what really helps, is to have something more than just going back your old life.  You have to find a new way in the life you used to live, but you’re not the person who lived that life anymore.

I believe it’s very important to remember all the good times, the memories and all the experiences you now have with you. Everything you learned. I think the most important thing I learned, was the fact that life never turns out as you planned it. You can prepare yourself as much as you want, you can even have the “big plan” for how you want everything to go. But no matter how hard you try, surprises are gonna come, things are gonna go right and wrong, and in the end it doesn’t matter anyway. Be cause isn’t it all the unplanned events and surprises that make it worthwhile in the end? Sometimes you just gotta let go of yourself, and that’s when the magic really happens.

Okay, I know I’ve been going a lot on the clichés lately, but stay with me. I cannot start to let you know how true this is. I don’t know if you’re like me, but I like to stay in control. I like to organize and plan, and prepare myself for everything. And that’s exactly why this year was so amazing for me, and why I come home as a different person. I put myself out there, and I lost control over and over again – and I’d do it all over again.

So I guess what I’m saying is, it’s not gonna be easy. Coming back home, trying to find a new way to live in your old life. And you’re going to be sad, probably cry a couple of nights. But when you get settled in again and you get to reflect and realize how amazing this year was, you’re going to end up more happier than you were before. You did it. And nothing can ever take that from you.

That’s all for now! Bisous xx

When there’s 24 hours left and the 10 best Paris quotes

Hello darlings!

I can’t believe I’m leaving Paris in just about 24 hours. I remember 10 months ago when I was writing a post about my last 24 hours in Denmark. And what a year it’s been!
Paris is one of the most romantic, cultural and historical cities in the world. Whenever you leave your apartment (or hotel), there’s always something to do. And even though I could go out and do so many crazy things in my last day here, that’s not what I have done so far. Instead, I went to my favorite bakery to buy the best macaroons in Paris. I went to one of the places where they make really good crêpes. I went for a walk along the Scene and bought a final souvenir. I bought a bottle of rose wine and enjoyed it with my friends. Because tbh, as great as Paris is, those things and all the memories I’ve made this year, is what I cherish the most. It’s things like that I’ll look back at in the future and miss. I’m gonna miss this city more than anything, and a thing I’ve realized is that Paris is without a doubt my favorite city. All the songs, movies and quoes haven’t been made out of nothing.

So as I’m writing my last post in my last hours in the city og lights, I’ll give you the 10 best quotes I’ve learned about Paris this year:

  1. “If you are lucky enough to have lived in Paris as a young man, then wherever you go for the rest of your life it stays with you, for Paris is a moveable feast.” – Ernest Hemingway
  2. “An artist has no home in Europe except in Paris.” -Friedrich Nietzsche
  3. “A walk about Paris will provide lessons in history, beauty, and in the point of Life.” -Thomas Jefferson
  4. Paris… is a world meant for the walker alone, for only the pace of strolling can take in all the rich (if muted) detail. -Edmund White
  5. “He who contemplates the depths of Paris is seized with vertigo.
    Nothing is more fantastic. Nothing is more tragic.
    Nothing is more sublime.” – Victor Hugo
  6. “I guess it goes to show that you just never know where life will take you. You search for answers. You wonder what it all means. You stumble, and you soar. And, if you’re lucky, you make it to Paris for a while.” – Amy Thomas
  7. “… you’ll have to fall in love at least once in your life, or Paris has failed to rub off on you.” – E.A. Bucvhianeri
  8. “Paris is a hard place to leave, even when it rains incessantly and one coughs continually from the dampness.” – Willa Cather
  9. “I cannot tell you what an immense impression Paris made upon me. It is the most extraordinary place in the world!” – Charles Dickens
  10. And at least, but not last, as I’ll keep saying from now on: “We’ll always have Paris.” – Casablanca 

That’s all for now – bisous xx

What au pairing has taught me or When there’s 7 weeks left

Hello darlings!

Summer has finally come to Paris, and time is flying faster than ever. I cannot believe all I have æeft of my Paris-adventure is 7 weeks. When you’re in it, you never really see how time is flying, until you’re near the end. And even though I’m overly excited about next year too, I know leaving Paris is gonna be one of the hardest things I’ve ever done so far. Saying goodbye to your host-family, your friends and the most amazing city ever. I’m not gonna have a dry eye, and here are the 3 reasons why au pairing has been the best year ever:

  1. I got out of my comfort zone. Even though there’s still plenty of possibilities for you to do new stuff in your home city, nothing says leaving your comfort zone, as moving to a completely new country and culture. I’ve never been as challenged and happy as I have this year, so I guess they’re right when they say the real magic is happening outside your comfort zone.
  2. I got to do everything I wanted. Having been in school for 13 years, I’ve always had things to do. Homework to read, assignments to write and exams to prepare for. For the first time in my life. I have been able to do exactly what I wanted to. Stay in been all day watching series? No guilt. Spending all your money on coffees and crepes? Nothing you really need to pay for anyway. One of the things which have made this year so amazing, has definitely been because I’ve been able to live my life exactly as I wanted it.
  3. I found myself. Okay, I know it’s one of the biggest clichés ever said, bur for me it was true. I went to Paris with many expectations, and after having fought my way though college, there was still so much I wasn’t sure of. What I wanted to do with my life, what was truly important for me. Who I was, when I wasnt a student, a worker or anything else but just me. And all the questions I had befre, has in these last 9 months been answered.

Thats all for now – remember to follow me on my instagram to stay updated on my life in Paris! xx

The 10 things you learn working with children

Bonjour a tout le monde

The french holidays are soon over, and once again I’m with my host family on holiday in Saudi Arabia. It’s some of an experience. Living with your host family for so long, when you’re not used to it can be a bit challenging. However, there’s a lot of new experiences you get, and old ones gets refreshed. I have here written 10 things you experience and learn when you’re working with children everyday:

  1. Patience. I think this one explains itself.
  2. They will come knocking on your door. If you live with your host family, you will definitely have tried this. Maybe just in the beginning, before the children learned you need your privacy, but they will come knocking, to play with you, see your room etc.
  3. If you order a different plate than them, dont expect you’re gonna eat it alone. Especially not if it’s french fries. Even if they’re old enough to ask first, the chances are that you’ll end up sharing with your host kids.
  4. You’re not always the best to play with. When you’re with the same children every day, at some point you stop being so interesting and fun, and you’ll even experience the children preferring to play on their own than playing with you.
  5. They can make your day. You might be having a rough day, and you may not really be in the mood to play. But then you toddler will give you a hug and say your name, or even give you an “I love you” and suddenly you’re entire day is suddenly a lot better.
  6. Life is more simple than you think. You ask a 2-year-old, or even a 7-year-old a difficult life-question, and they surprise you with such an simple answer, that still makes sense. It makes you realize things look more complicated when you grow up, but that doesn’t mean that’s how it is.
  7. It’s okay to have a meltdown now and again. Working with children for a whole year in the city of love always seemed like the perfect dream to me. But working with children as an au pair is a lot more challenging job than I ever imagined, and sometimes you just loose it. It’s okay though, to have a meltdown now and again, cause it is really hard sometimes.
  8. You ask questions to so much more. If there’s one thing that can make you questions things you never thought about questioning before, it’s children. All their why’s, and where’s and how’s make even grown ups start questioning so many new things.
  9. Parenting is so important. I know this one seems very obvious, but I’m gonna mention it anyway. I’d like to think my parents has raised me and my siblings as polite, thankful people whom still respect other people. So that’s all I’ve known. But being an au pair makes you see that not everyone has the same values as you’ve been raise by. Not even the ones you thought were essential for parenting. Don’t take me wrong, I love my host kids, and I know most au pairs do. But you’d be surprised by how many children you meet as an au pair, who hasn’t been taught right from wrong or has ever been disciplined. And even though it might be obvious to you, it’s rarely the parents can see it themselves.
  10. Love without conditions. Children can be mean, disrespectful and really annoying.  But let’s face it, at the end of the day, when they want to give you a hug or kiss, your heart melts for them and you love them anyway.

5 lessons in 5 months

Bonjout a toutl le monde!

2 days ago I had officially spend 5 months in Paris. It means I have only 5 months left, and it’s incredible how time fast is flying! Im trying to “breathe it all in” and “enjoy ever moment”, but of course being an au pair isn’t all flowers and rainbows, though I think its pretty great most of the time. However I’ve here written 5 lessons I’ve learned in my last 5 months as an au pair:

  1. Sometimes it’s really difficult. In my last post I gave a thumps up to all the au pairs doing what I do, and there’s a reason for that. I mean before I went I had all these big expectations, which most of has come true. But I didn’t really think about the hard and challenging things, like when the children are so disrespectful and doesn’t want to listen to you, when you get baby poop on you for the 3rd time that day or even when you have to do things agains your own principels. Sometimes it’s just not so fun to be an au pair.
  2.  Learning a new language takes time. I know I’ve mentioned this before, but I really mean it. Learning a new language takes a lot of time and effort, even when you live in the country where it’s the mother language. Of course you improve a lot faster, but  you won’t speak it fluently just by being in the country.
  3. You grow as a person. You learn so many new things about yourself when you step out of your comfort zone. Going to a country where everything you do, all the way to your small, daily rituals is different, really teaches you who you are. And you grow so much.
  4. Sometimes you need to just let it go. You can be very obsessed about working hours, how much you do in the house or the things your host parents tell you to do, but truth be told, sometimes you just need to let it go. Sometimes you just work those extra hours or walk that extra mile, but if you’re gona count every little thing, it can be a very long and difficult year.
  5. Enjoy every day! Time is flying faster than you realize, and before you know it, the year will be over and it’s time to head home. You’ll leave your host family, the house you’ve been living in and the country you’ve been au paring in. Therefore you should remember to cherish every experience and every day.

That’s all for now

A tout

Why an au pair is kinda a superhero or A thumps up to all au pairs

Superman said it himself: “With great power comes great responsibility.” And in the beginning we ignored him. We didn’t think it would ever apply to us. But then we became au pairs.

Okay I know that sounded super solemnly, but in some ways you could say that as an au pair you’re kinda a superhero. You have left your own country, family and culture, for a completely new world, to help another family. Of course you get a lot out of it yourself, but to be an au pair is sometimes really hardcore.

You come with the desire to learn a new language and culture, way out of your comfort zone. You leave with abilities you’d never dream of: being able to look after 3 screaming children at once, (without loosing your mind(, calm down a hungry baby or play hide and seek at the playground in -5 degrees.

We learn a new language, most of it outside of school.

You learn to handle new challenges everyday, and to always keep an open mind.

We learn to master all these things, while we at the same time are changing as a person. And if we’re lucky, in the end, we’ll hopefully find or get what we came here for in the first place.

It’s so many experiences in such a short time, and in years from now it’ll probably be one of the best years in our lives.

I’d say we’re superheroes. So shoutout to all the superheroes AKA the au pairs.

 

4 lessons in 4 months or Why I love my job

If you’re going to be sad, you might as well be sad in Paris.

Once again I have no idea where the time went and it’s been too long since my last post! I really can’t believe it’s almost christmas and in just 15 days I’m going back home to see my friends and family again. I’ve been in Paris around 4 months, and I gotta tell you it’s been some of an adventure so far. I think we all have these big expectations of how a year abroad will be, but to be honest I feel like most of my expectations has turned out to be fulfilled. Everyday in Paris is like a fairy tale. Not that Im saying you don’t have bad and challenging days too, but all in all that’s how I feel. And here I’ll give you the best parts of being an au pair in Paris:

  1. The city in itself. I mean, it’s Paris. Do I need to say more? All that you read and and hear about this city of lights is more or less true. Everyday I get to go out, and whatever it is I’m doing, I get to do it in Paris.
  2. The children. I know some people become au pairs only for the city or only for the cultural experience, but for most it’s also because I really like children. And even though it can be the most challenging thing I’ve ever done, it’s also the best decision I’ve ever made. I mean getting to look after 3 absolute amazing children day after day and even get payed for it? Yes please!
  3. The friendships. As you know from my previous post I have experienced that amazing people can be found everywhere.  And even though all my friends are from completely different countries than mine, I’ve discovered that some of the friendships I have are the best I’ve ever experience. I believe I’ve found friends for life as an au pair, how cheesy that may sound.
  4. You get to experience and see another culture up close. When you become an au pair and get close with your host family, you get to see the culture as it really is. Not just as a tourist passing by, but as every other french family who lives in France.

That’s all for now!
A bientôt